What is not love is always fear, and nothing else.
All healing is essentially the release from fear.

The emotional scars of cesarean birth

Posted: September 14th, 2010 | Author: | Filed under: Birth, Cesarean, Mothers, PostPartumDepression, PTSD, Trauma, Women | No Comments »
by Nicette Jukelevics, author of
Understanding the Dangers of Cesarean Birth: Making Informed Decisions
at www.DangersOfCesareanBirth.com

For years researchers have largely focused on the technical aspects and “appropriate” rate of cesarean section: the surgical procedure. However, birth by cesarean can have powerful psychological effects on women and their ability to adjust to motherhood. Read the rest of this entry »


For many women, a V-section can be as traumatic as a C-section

Posted: September 4th, 2010 | Author: | Filed under: Birth, Cesarean, Episiotomy, Mothers, PostPartumDepression, PTSD, Trauma | No Comments »

by Kathryn Lane Berkowitz

Did you know that for many women, a vaginal birth with an episiotomy can be just as traumatic and painful as birth with a cesarean ? It’s true. The birth of my oldest child, who weighed on 5lbs and 5 oz was delivered via a mediolateral episiotomy and forceps. It was extremely painful. I refer to that birth as my “V-section” because that’s how it felt to me. I felt sliced and diced. And I was!

I had many, many stitches that itched and burned and nothing made it go away. This continued for several weeks. I was breastfeeding and it was all I could do to turn over in the bed without pain so intense that it made me nauseated and faint feeling. I had to have someone “spot” me every time I got up to use the bathroom because I was afraid I would faint. I was completely incapacitated.

In case you are unfamiliar with the term “episiotomy”, here is some information, and illustrations: Read the rest of this entry »


You are only as sick as your secrets

Posted: August 30th, 2010 | Author: | Filed under: Abuse, Birth, Body, Cognitive, Depression, Emotions, Feelings, Healing, Mind, Moods, Neglect, PTSD, Self-help, Stress | 2 Comments »

Sometimes secrets are intentionally kept. On birthdays we don’t want our friends to know what we are giving them because we want them to be surprised.

Sometimes wonderful, velvet memories are kept secret because they are intensely private and personal. We do not care to share what they are because they might be misunderstood and not cherished by others as we cherish them ourselves.

But then there are the prickly or even stabbing secrets that hurt us then and continue to hurt us now. Those secrets are best aired and released. Read the rest of this entry »