Sometimes secrets are intentionally kept. On birthdays we don’t want our friends to know what we are giving them because we want them to be surprised.
Sometimes wonderful, velvet memories are kept secret because they are intensely private and personal. We do not care to share what they are because they might be misunderstood and not cherished by others as we cherish them ourselves.
But then there are the prickly or even stabbing secrets that hurt us then and continue to hurt us now. Those secrets are best aired and released. Read the rest of this entry »
To make our healing work very simple, it helps to think of the light switch on the wall that is either on or off. If we agree to call our inner emotional states by two terms, either love or fear, then our progress will be rapid.
Just as one is never just a “little” pregnant — you are also neither a “little” in love or fear. You are either relaxed and happy and aware of love — or not. You could think of the inner human state simply as, “love on” or “love off” — and we call “love off”, for want of a better term, fear. Read the rest of this entry »
Words are difficult for some of us, especially those of us who were badly traumatized. So we feel perplexed by words. We don’t know how to express what we feel. Is what we feel “panic” or “anxiety”? Is it “fear” or terror” or “horror” or “dread” or “regret”? We don’t know the exact words to use. But there is a very simple way to get at what we need to get at. Read the rest of this entry »
This video is an introduction to Emotional Freedom Technique. EFT seemed pretty silly to me when I first heard about it… but I grew into it. Once I understood how it worked, I was sold. Read the rest of this entry »
Focusing is a very introspective practice, almost like meditation. It is another peer-counseling system taught in a class, so you can meet others who will trade time with you. But it is not essential to have a partner to do it — you can do it alone — many do.
Eugene Gendler, founder of focusing, noticed that the clients who made the best progress in counseling were those who did not just talk but could pause, be still, and go inward to feel what was going on within. Gendlin developed a method of teaching everyone to do this, whether with a counselor, or alone. Read the rest of this entry »
Foods that grow in trees support mental activity. They help us wake up and get going in the morning. They are sweet, wet, cool and wash the waste out of our bodies. Eating fruits from trees first thing in the morning is like taking a shower on the inside. They make you feel clean and fresh and ready to greet the day.
Too little of the air foods and you are mentally dull, boring, bored. Too much makes you feel weak, giddy, silly, goofy, “fruity,” “nutty,” “spacey,” forgetful.
When you need to do something physical and practical like wash the car, vacuum the floor, or just move your body from one place to another, try a dose of earth food: a nice big glass of carrot juice, a hit of ginger in your smoothie, garlic in your salad. Other examples of earth foods are beets, potatoes, onions and peanuts.
Root vegetables bring you back to a practical place. They are grounding. Too many earth foods will make you lethargic.